I get this question a lot ... and yes, it's probably exactly what you think it is.
Monogamy = relationship between 2 people
non-monogamy = relationship with many people
ethical non-monogamy = relationships with many people and EVERYONE knows & agrees upon those relationships
Majority of us have been in monogamous relationships where the other person wasn't monogamous - ie, they were seeing or having sex with someone else without our knowledge (most of us call that cheating).
In an ethically non-monogamous relationship: ALL individuals involved know about each other and agree to see each other.
Now, remember: Relationships are a constant negotiation. There should be ongoing discussions to make sure everyone's needs are being met and desires are being fulfilled and relationship agreements reviewed and adjusted if necessary.
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What's the difference between kinks and fetishes?
Per Webster's dictionary, kink is "unconventional sexual taste or behavior."
Which means, what's kinky for one may not be kinky for another. And kinks are just another way for us to expand on our sexual preferences.
Some examples of more mainstream/well-known kinks:
Fetish comes about when the feeling toward a kink is more intense and necessary for sexual gratification/satisfaction. Per our friend Webster: "an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression."
Fetishes typically become a huge part of one's sexual identity because it's integral for their sexual satisfaction.
Common fetishes include:
Keep in mind, everything is a spectrum - you may explore a kink that evolves into a fetish. Kinks and fetishes are absolutely normal and there's nothing wrong with you - as long as you're not committing crimes to fulfil that fetish.
If you're feeling distressed over your specific turn-ons or having trouble maintaining a healthy relationship, I invite you to set up a free 15-min call with me to discuss how I may be able to help!