Kinks vs Fetishes

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What's the difference between kinks and fetishes? 

Per Webster's dictionary, kink is "unconventional sexual taste or behavior." 

Which means, what's kinky for one may not be kinky for another. And kinks are just another way for us to expand on our sexual preferences.

Some examples of more mainstream/well-known kinks: 

• BDSM
• hair pulling
• spanking
• choking/hand on the throat
• uniforms

Fetish comes about when the feeling toward a kink is more intense and necessary for sexual gratification/satisfaction. Per our friend Webster: "an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression." 

Fetishes typically become a huge part of one's sexual identity because it's integral for their sexual satisfaction.

Common fetishes include: 

• feet
• boots/heels
• body hair
• leather
• lingerie

Keep in mind, everything is a spectrum - you may explore a kink that evolves into a fetish. Kinks and fetishes are absolutely normal and there's nothing wrong with you - as long as you're not committing crimes to fulfil that fetish. 

If you're feeling distressed over your specific turn-ons or having trouble maintaining a healthy relationship, I invite you to set up a free 15-min call with me to discuss how I may be able to help! 

Happy Exploring!
xo,
Jess