Why sex work is so powerful

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I have a friend - let's call her, "A" - who recently started an OnlyFans page simply for fun. We sat down last week to discuss how it's going for her and why she finds it so fun and empowering .... here's some things we discussed*: 

"A" isn't in a relationship right now, and doesn't really feel like she has the time to be dating, but she does miss the connection and attention. She doesn't have the desire to be on the dating apps - who can blame her? - and doesn't necessarily want to meet up with anyone right now. So, she decided to try an OF page and see what happened. 

Here's what she's found after a few months of posting half-naked photos of herself online for people to buy: 

• She's getting to be super creative with her sexuality.
• She's becoming more confident in her own body - she's getting compliments all the time and learning how to accept those without negating the comment (something she found difficult before).
• She's getting to interact with people on a different level - people who are reaching out to her don't just throw compliments her way, but also are wanting to get to know her. 
• She feels safe in this space to explore - she's set her own boundaries with what she will and won't do and is learning to stick to those boundaries in a healthy way. 
• She's also found the men on her page to be extremely respectful of her boundaries, and to be generally kind individuals. (Unlike her experiences on dating apps recently.) 

All of this makes sense, if you think about it. "A" is getting in touch with her own sexual side in a way that makes her feel empowered, confident, safe, and beautiful. She's learning to love her body more and more each day and find fulfilment in taking photos of herself - the compliments and payments from men are just bonuses, she says. 

Will she continue this if she gets into a relationship? She's unsure at the moment, but can also see how it can benefit a relationship in the future. (To be covered in a different post ...)

​Curious about sex work and how it may help you with confidence? Book a 30-min voxer chat with me and let's discuss!

*Published with "A"s permission.